Backsliding and lies

I am a leader for 6 meetings a week, and if nothing else, I find comfort in the fact that we are not alone.  We all have our hopes and desires; and we all have our struggles along the way.  And usually, more often than not...the struggles are with our selves in our own heads! 

I don't know WHAT it is, be we all have the ability to trip ourselves up, and lie to ourselves, OURSELVES!!!!!  How can you stand there, look in the mirror, lie to yourself....and let yourself get away with it????   I mean, seriously???  Is the truth SO painful that you literally cannot deal with it?

We do it on so many levels, that we honestly ignore it.  So how can you bring ourselves back from the depths of lying, to a level of brutal honesty?  And what would happen if we were to be honest with ourself?  I truly believe it is a safety mechanism.  (well, in some cases anyways). 

We all have our own perspective, and we usually create it to work towards our own benefit.  Lets take jobs for instance.  If you get fired, it's easier to believe "they" were after you and they plotted this against you.  Because if we have to look at the REAL POTENTIAL truth, it could mean that you did not measure up and were not satisfactory for the position.  So, your perspective saves face for you.  How nice.  You can tell people your perspective, and they will believe you, because they don't know any better! (unless they worked with you, I mean). 

BUT....if we are looking at weight loss.... it is a little harder to lie.  If you say you didn't eat something, and you did.....it's pretty cut and dry.  You are lying.  And if you are lying to someone else, and they didn't see you, that is one thing.  But when you start lying to yourself, you have to ask.....why???  (After all....what you eat in private, shows up in public later.)  That is a fact.  Eventually, people will know you are overeating.  But the question is, why do we feel the need to lie to ourselves when there is no lie about it.  You ate it.  How can you lie to yourself?  And why????

Truth is, I do not have the answer.  we all have to find the answers in ourselves.  The bottom line is you are either contributing to your greater self, or contaminating your efforts.  Whatever the choice, it's all yours. 

But if you find yourself beating your head up against a wall, because you cannot achieve whatever goal it is; you really need to stop and ask yourself what is going on?  Why can't I face the truth, and what will happen if I start?  Will I die?  Likely not.  (But the pain of the truth might feel like it.) 

We need to be living the life that supports what our goals are.  I use weight loss as an example, because that seems to carry the most weight as far as an example (pun intended).  But you can 'insert issue here' if you'd like.  The bottom line is, if you aren't getting what you want, and what you are doing isn't working, you need to change what you are doing! 

We all have our struggles, but when you are lying to yourself....that is the first struggle you must overcome!  Ask your friends for help if necessary.  More often than not, they are watching you and helping you lie, because they love you.  But if you actually ask them to tell the truth....I'll bet they can tell you!!!