Every give so much advice so often, that when you need some yourself, you completely ignore all that you say?
I am a windbag of advice. I have been in my head for so long that I have learned a million and one things about how to deal with stuff. But as they say, I'm the cobbler without shoes.
Sometimes it takes a while to sift through the muck in your mind, and for most people, its too hard and they don't know where to begin, so they don't bother. They simply "cope" instead. We all have our coping mechanisms; food, alcohol, distractions, diversions, whatever you want to call it. When things get hard and we don't want to face "it" we find away around it, and sometimes ignore it all together as though it doesn't exist. But more often than not we are delaying the inevitable.
Take me, for instance! I'm stuck. I wouldn't say I'm avoiding, because I simply can't avoid my situation, but I can't seem to get past it either. I have been sitting in it for a few months now and passively dealing with it. It started with stomach issues and progressed from there. The bottom line is I have to start eating differently to cure myself effectively. But I'm stuck.
I think I have come to the conclusion, mentally, that I am not ready to admit that this is a lifelong problem, when it is! What I eat affects my life. If I change what I eat, I will improve. It is that simple.
I realized this morning that I have to start over. I have all the ingredients to what needs to be done. I just had to put myself in the shoes of a "friend that needs help" in order to see the situation more clearly. I would do anythiing for my friends, so it's easy to put myself on the other side of things.
And now, it will simply be taking "my" advice and putting it into action. I have all the ingredients, I just need to put them together in a way that the 'recipe' works. And that will take some time.
It's really sad that we can sift through someone elses stuff with ease, but our own seems impossible. But the truth it, it's not really impossible. It is just unpleasant. And who wants to 'deal' with unpleasant!?!?!
I once heard that if we removed our emotions we would become more like computers. We would remember everything, and be able to reiterate it without issue. It is our emotions that get in our way. I for one, am a very emotional person, so it's no wonder I have a hard time remembering details. But I never forget how I felt!
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Listen the first time
Kids take over your life.
Most parents know this.
With kids, comes great responsibilities! As a parent we learn to listen to our kids "with a grain of salt". Sometimes we take it to heart; other times we dismiss it as, "they're being dramatic". Well sometimes yes and sometimes no!
My little one tells me she feels she is not being heard and she is frustrated by this. However, being that she is 8, her ability to articulate isn't exactly mastered. So she is left to her own devices with what we have provided her to date. Which, in my opinion, isn't nearly enough. As parents I think we can always do better, but most of us do the best we can with the training we have been provided, which, is usually...none. After all...there is no parenting handbook! Millions of books, but no real "page turner" that answers all those burning questions.
But, I digress.......
As my 8 year old tries to let on that she is feeling, "unvalued", her way of communicating is simply (and effectively), acting out! Sometimes it's a tangent, sometimes a meltdown, sometimes a very loud and appropriately placed slam of her bedroom door. What else is one to do when they aren't feeling heard?
As we ignored many of these signs; things started showing up outside the home; eventually we started hearing things from the teacher (minor offenses, but needs attention). And, then, on the playground.
Now...I'm listening!
I am seeing that a child left to their own devices will cope the best they can with what they have. And if their ability to seek guidance at home is thwarted, they will go to their next option, which is school and 'friends'.
Thankfully, I have a tight enough network, that while I'm down, and calling out for help, I'm getting even more stories that I do not want to hear! (again, minor offenses, arguments at school...nothing major but needs attention).
Armed with this knowledge I am forced to face the unpleasantries of parenthood.....dissecting the issues! This is no easy task. Especially when you haven't been listening effectively to your child. When you are in it, it's really hard to see at times. But I guarantee you, there are clues along the way.
Luckily, when I started opening dialog with my child, and asking other adults who may have witnessed "un-perfect behaviors", I found a pattern that simply showed me that I have not been listening to my child or valuing her enough. With the support of the teachers, school, parents and my beautiful child, we began re-directing her efforts and showing her that I am listening and that we appreciate her. You know....the stuff that most all of us would like to hear!?!?!?! I also found out through all of this, that my child is exquisitely in touch with her feelings and her ability to articulate them in writing is truly amazing to me! Through all of this, I started encouraging her to write out her feelings and emotions when she is feeling under appreciated (or whenever she wants, for that matter), and I have been thrilled to see what she has been writing. It's amazing what happens when you actually "see" your child!
As for my other child, when she told me her ear was hurting, I should have listened the first time. By not listening, I created a "drop everything" moment to take her to the doctors, because by the time I actually "listened" to her, she was now in severe pain! Bad mommy!
Learn from my mistakes. When your child tells you something (or even your spouse for that matter), take a moment, look at them, try to see how they feel and hear what they are really saying to you. By doing that, you will validate them. And I know for myself, when I feel like someone really hears me, I want to spend more time with and around them!
Most parents know this.
With kids, comes great responsibilities! As a parent we learn to listen to our kids "with a grain of salt". Sometimes we take it to heart; other times we dismiss it as, "they're being dramatic". Well sometimes yes and sometimes no!
My little one tells me she feels she is not being heard and she is frustrated by this. However, being that she is 8, her ability to articulate isn't exactly mastered. So she is left to her own devices with what we have provided her to date. Which, in my opinion, isn't nearly enough. As parents I think we can always do better, but most of us do the best we can with the training we have been provided, which, is usually...none. After all...there is no parenting handbook! Millions of books, but no real "page turner" that answers all those burning questions.
But, I digress.......
As my 8 year old tries to let on that she is feeling, "unvalued", her way of communicating is simply (and effectively), acting out! Sometimes it's a tangent, sometimes a meltdown, sometimes a very loud and appropriately placed slam of her bedroom door. What else is one to do when they aren't feeling heard?
As we ignored many of these signs; things started showing up outside the home; eventually we started hearing things from the teacher (minor offenses, but needs attention). And, then, on the playground.
Now...I'm listening!
I am seeing that a child left to their own devices will cope the best they can with what they have. And if their ability to seek guidance at home is thwarted, they will go to their next option, which is school and 'friends'.
Thankfully, I have a tight enough network, that while I'm down, and calling out for help, I'm getting even more stories that I do not want to hear! (again, minor offenses, arguments at school...nothing major but needs attention).
Armed with this knowledge I am forced to face the unpleasantries of parenthood.....dissecting the issues! This is no easy task. Especially when you haven't been listening effectively to your child. When you are in it, it's really hard to see at times. But I guarantee you, there are clues along the way.
Luckily, when I started opening dialog with my child, and asking other adults who may have witnessed "un-perfect behaviors", I found a pattern that simply showed me that I have not been listening to my child or valuing her enough. With the support of the teachers, school, parents and my beautiful child, we began re-directing her efforts and showing her that I am listening and that we appreciate her. You know....the stuff that most all of us would like to hear!?!?!?! I also found out through all of this, that my child is exquisitely in touch with her feelings and her ability to articulate them in writing is truly amazing to me! Through all of this, I started encouraging her to write out her feelings and emotions when she is feeling under appreciated (or whenever she wants, for that matter), and I have been thrilled to see what she has been writing. It's amazing what happens when you actually "see" your child!
As for my other child, when she told me her ear was hurting, I should have listened the first time. By not listening, I created a "drop everything" moment to take her to the doctors, because by the time I actually "listened" to her, she was now in severe pain! Bad mommy!
Learn from my mistakes. When your child tells you something (or even your spouse for that matter), take a moment, look at them, try to see how they feel and hear what they are really saying to you. By doing that, you will validate them. And I know for myself, when I feel like someone really hears me, I want to spend more time with and around them!
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Motivating the masses
It is my job to motivate and support people. My ability to do this supports someone else's success. My inability to do this, means they are not successful. No pressure, right? Sometimes I literally feel their fate is in my hands.
I follow a topic every week. Usually it's a slam dunk, but other times it is a little more, well, lets say, challenging. This week, I'm talking about exercising.
This is a GREAT topic! This is the one single component, that if added regularly, will guide ones success all the way to the finish line. No kidding. Things start to happen when you add this one component into your life.
We all did it as kids and it was a total no brainer! We just went out the front doors in the morning and ran or rode until we came home at night. When we had to sit for long periods of time it would drive us nuts. Yet somehow, over the years of graduating stagnancy, and busy schedules, this one component became obsolete. What happened???? I'm guessing the same for most of us....life got in the way and we had to grow up!!! What a bummer.
Now, I am paid to stand in front of people and beg them to give it a try! Touting the many benefits we will gain (and lose) by doing said component (which we all know, because we have heard it a million times already...).
So, why is it, than when I stand up there and talk about this am I faced with blank stares and usually crickets?
.......Bueller................Bueller.......................Bueller.................
(Because, even though I know it is vital to our lives, it is literally one more thing I have to squeeze or carve into my life and I don't want to!!!)
I get it! I was that person. But now on the other side of things, I see the benefits firsthand! I'm what one might call newly converted. I now get that the reason I started putting on extra weight in my adult years is because I was slowly losing muscle mass starting at the age of 25. And that if I didn't get my butt moving, then 10% of it would be gone by the time I am 45, steadily decreasing from there! YIKES!!!
But still, with my knowledge and my pleading, people still have a hard time with this. They think it will be too complicated to get moving and do it on a regular basis. Hopefully this week, I will get a few more takers in the area. Hopefully, I'll say something that creates a spark. Maybe I will convince one solitary person that it doesn't have to be complicated. And they will realize if they just move more than they already are; there will be benefits.
Because I know how hard it is for people to hear this, it makes it a challenging week for me. But hopefully, I'll get through and maybe someone who is listening will change their habits which will change their lives.
Just maybe.......
I follow a topic every week. Usually it's a slam dunk, but other times it is a little more, well, lets say, challenging. This week, I'm talking about exercising.
This is a GREAT topic! This is the one single component, that if added regularly, will guide ones success all the way to the finish line. No kidding. Things start to happen when you add this one component into your life.
We all did it as kids and it was a total no brainer! We just went out the front doors in the morning and ran or rode until we came home at night. When we had to sit for long periods of time it would drive us nuts. Yet somehow, over the years of graduating stagnancy, and busy schedules, this one component became obsolete. What happened???? I'm guessing the same for most of us....life got in the way and we had to grow up!!! What a bummer.
Now, I am paid to stand in front of people and beg them to give it a try! Touting the many benefits we will gain (and lose) by doing said component (which we all know, because we have heard it a million times already...).
So, why is it, than when I stand up there and talk about this am I faced with blank stares and usually crickets?
.......Bueller................Bueller.......................Bueller.................
(Because, even though I know it is vital to our lives, it is literally one more thing I have to squeeze or carve into my life and I don't want to!!!)
I get it! I was that person. But now on the other side of things, I see the benefits firsthand! I'm what one might call newly converted. I now get that the reason I started putting on extra weight in my adult years is because I was slowly losing muscle mass starting at the age of 25. And that if I didn't get my butt moving, then 10% of it would be gone by the time I am 45, steadily decreasing from there! YIKES!!!
But still, with my knowledge and my pleading, people still have a hard time with this. They think it will be too complicated to get moving and do it on a regular basis. Hopefully this week, I will get a few more takers in the area. Hopefully, I'll say something that creates a spark. Maybe I will convince one solitary person that it doesn't have to be complicated. And they will realize if they just move more than they already are; there will be benefits.
Because I know how hard it is for people to hear this, it makes it a challenging week for me. But hopefully, I'll get through and maybe someone who is listening will change their habits which will change their lives.
Just maybe.......
Monday, April 4, 2011
Torn between 'want' and 'should'
As I have stated in the past, diversions keep me from being organized. However, I have this overwhelming drive inside about seizing the day when the mood strikes me.
Most of the time it's a no brainer; if it's a nice day, I'm not working, nothing else is scheduled and I 'should' be cleaning the house; it's very easy to say, 'let's go to the beach' instead. But this is where I get bit. Eventually, it all starts piling up, and comes crumbling down on a day that wouldn't have happened if I had just stuck to 'the plan'.
However, sometimes I honestly feel like today is all we have. And how do you compete with that? Anything can happen at any moment of our lives and literally change everything!!! I have seen it happen!
Growing up with my sister, she was chock full of responsibility. She literally elected to clean her room. Now, to her credit, we shared a room (to her dismay) and she just wanted all the crap picked up cuz she couldn't live with it anymore. But I never felt that way. Not once! I never looked at our room and said, "Gee, what a mess....let us take this day and clean!!!!" Trust me, I wish it had! Cuz now I sit here, some 30+ years later with the same struggles I had then! "I don't care".
"I don't care" works great when you are all by yourself and have no one to be accountable to. However, I have a few people to whom I am accountable. And two of them are in training. Yes....from me....quit laughing........
This makes it a bit more difficult to "seize the day", because I am literally training my kids that we can live life on a whim, and that 'responsible' stuff can just wait. So, it makes it a little more difficult to make this decision.
So, I sit here, fighting in my head between the wants and the shoulds. Another problem with my choices is the when I DO get that golden moment where I want to clean the house; the kids just look at me like "We don't do that, mother. Remember? We have Disney passes....or we go to the beach...or we shop!" And, of course, the cooperation is out the window and the fights ensue. It's a bad cycle.
But, with all that said, I have a sick daughter on the couch, and one grumpy-ish from just waking up. And as I write, I'm staring at a MOST beautiful day, and I cannot help but think to myself....."she'll be sick no matter where she is, and the other will perk up as soon as we get to Disneyland".
Is that bad?
Most of the time it's a no brainer; if it's a nice day, I'm not working, nothing else is scheduled and I 'should' be cleaning the house; it's very easy to say, 'let's go to the beach' instead. But this is where I get bit. Eventually, it all starts piling up, and comes crumbling down on a day that wouldn't have happened if I had just stuck to 'the plan'.
However, sometimes I honestly feel like today is all we have. And how do you compete with that? Anything can happen at any moment of our lives and literally change everything!!! I have seen it happen!
Growing up with my sister, she was chock full of responsibility. She literally elected to clean her room. Now, to her credit, we shared a room (to her dismay) and she just wanted all the crap picked up cuz she couldn't live with it anymore. But I never felt that way. Not once! I never looked at our room and said, "Gee, what a mess....let us take this day and clean!!!!" Trust me, I wish it had! Cuz now I sit here, some 30+ years later with the same struggles I had then! "I don't care".
"I don't care" works great when you are all by yourself and have no one to be accountable to. However, I have a few people to whom I am accountable. And two of them are in training. Yes....from me....quit laughing........
This makes it a bit more difficult to "seize the day", because I am literally training my kids that we can live life on a whim, and that 'responsible' stuff can just wait. So, it makes it a little more difficult to make this decision.
So, I sit here, fighting in my head between the wants and the shoulds. Another problem with my choices is the when I DO get that golden moment where I want to clean the house; the kids just look at me like "We don't do that, mother. Remember? We have Disney passes....or we go to the beach...or we shop!" And, of course, the cooperation is out the window and the fights ensue. It's a bad cycle.
But, with all that said, I have a sick daughter on the couch, and one grumpy-ish from just waking up. And as I write, I'm staring at a MOST beautiful day, and I cannot help but think to myself....."she'll be sick no matter where she is, and the other will perk up as soon as we get to Disneyland".
Is that bad?
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Backsliding and lies
I am a leader for 6 meetings a week, and if nothing else, I find comfort in the fact that we are not alone. We all have our hopes and desires; and we all have our struggles along the way. And usually, more often than not...the struggles are with our selves in our own heads!
I don't know WHAT it is, be we all have the ability to trip ourselves up, and lie to ourselves, OURSELVES!!!!! How can you stand there, look in the mirror, lie to yourself....and let yourself get away with it???? I mean, seriously??? Is the truth SO painful that you literally cannot deal with it?
We do it on so many levels, that we honestly ignore it. So how can you bring ourselves back from the depths of lying, to a level of brutal honesty? And what would happen if we were to be honest with ourself? I truly believe it is a safety mechanism. (well, in some cases anyways).
We all have our own perspective, and we usually create it to work towards our own benefit. Lets take jobs for instance. If you get fired, it's easier to believe "they" were after you and they plotted this against you. Because if we have to look at the REAL POTENTIAL truth, it could mean that you did not measure up and were not satisfactory for the position. So, your perspective saves face for you. How nice. You can tell people your perspective, and they will believe you, because they don't know any better! (unless they worked with you, I mean).
BUT....if we are looking at weight loss.... it is a little harder to lie. If you say you didn't eat something, and you did.....it's pretty cut and dry. You are lying. And if you are lying to someone else, and they didn't see you, that is one thing. But when you start lying to yourself, you have to ask.....why??? (After all....what you eat in private, shows up in public later.) That is a fact. Eventually, people will know you are overeating. But the question is, why do we feel the need to lie to ourselves when there is no lie about it. You ate it. How can you lie to yourself? And why????
Truth is, I do not have the answer. we all have to find the answers in ourselves. The bottom line is you are either contributing to your greater self, or contaminating your efforts. Whatever the choice, it's all yours.
But if you find yourself beating your head up against a wall, because you cannot achieve whatever goal it is; you really need to stop and ask yourself what is going on? Why can't I face the truth, and what will happen if I start? Will I die? Likely not. (But the pain of the truth might feel like it.)
We need to be living the life that supports what our goals are. I use weight loss as an example, because that seems to carry the most weight as far as an example (pun intended). But you can 'insert issue here' if you'd like. The bottom line is, if you aren't getting what you want, and what you are doing isn't working, you need to change what you are doing!
We all have our struggles, but when you are lying to yourself....that is the first struggle you must overcome! Ask your friends for help if necessary. More often than not, they are watching you and helping you lie, because they love you. But if you actually ask them to tell the truth....I'll bet they can tell you!!!
I don't know WHAT it is, be we all have the ability to trip ourselves up, and lie to ourselves, OURSELVES!!!!! How can you stand there, look in the mirror, lie to yourself....and let yourself get away with it???? I mean, seriously??? Is the truth SO painful that you literally cannot deal with it?
We do it on so many levels, that we honestly ignore it. So how can you bring ourselves back from the depths of lying, to a level of brutal honesty? And what would happen if we were to be honest with ourself? I truly believe it is a safety mechanism. (well, in some cases anyways).
We all have our own perspective, and we usually create it to work towards our own benefit. Lets take jobs for instance. If you get fired, it's easier to believe "they" were after you and they plotted this against you. Because if we have to look at the REAL POTENTIAL truth, it could mean that you did not measure up and were not satisfactory for the position. So, your perspective saves face for you. How nice. You can tell people your perspective, and they will believe you, because they don't know any better! (unless they worked with you, I mean).
BUT....if we are looking at weight loss.... it is a little harder to lie. If you say you didn't eat something, and you did.....it's pretty cut and dry. You are lying. And if you are lying to someone else, and they didn't see you, that is one thing. But when you start lying to yourself, you have to ask.....why??? (After all....what you eat in private, shows up in public later.) That is a fact. Eventually, people will know you are overeating. But the question is, why do we feel the need to lie to ourselves when there is no lie about it. You ate it. How can you lie to yourself? And why????
Truth is, I do not have the answer. we all have to find the answers in ourselves. The bottom line is you are either contributing to your greater self, or contaminating your efforts. Whatever the choice, it's all yours.
But if you find yourself beating your head up against a wall, because you cannot achieve whatever goal it is; you really need to stop and ask yourself what is going on? Why can't I face the truth, and what will happen if I start? Will I die? Likely not. (But the pain of the truth might feel like it.)
We need to be living the life that supports what our goals are. I use weight loss as an example, because that seems to carry the most weight as far as an example (pun intended). But you can 'insert issue here' if you'd like. The bottom line is, if you aren't getting what you want, and what you are doing isn't working, you need to change what you are doing!
We all have our struggles, but when you are lying to yourself....that is the first struggle you must overcome! Ask your friends for help if necessary. More often than not, they are watching you and helping you lie, because they love you. But if you actually ask them to tell the truth....I'll bet they can tell you!!!
Saturday, April 2, 2011
So much to do and so little time
I pray every day that the organizer fairy will fly into my life and give me the tools I need to stay organized. But, so far, my prayers are unanswered. Apparently God has more important issues to tend to, and frankly I don't blame him for letting my little issues run amock!!
I am the queen of procrastination and diversion tactics. As it is now, I'm dressed and ready to run through the house and "git er done", but I am sitting here instead, writing to only God knows who; so at this time, we'll just call it, "me".
Frankly, I get overwhelmed pretty easily. When the mood strikes, I want it all done at once! Right now! Not in five minutes....NOW! However, it didn't take "now" to happen. It's been a slow culmination of neglect over a long period of time. So, what I need to do is figure out how to chunk it down!
My "today" goal was to work on my bedroom. Clothes are strewn everywhere, and I can't even dust because I have a lot of stuff to move before that can happen. So, I need to go in and even chunk all that down to manageable tasks. And this...is where I get lost! I just don't know where to start! I swear, I wouldn't be surprised if Clean Sweep came to my door and said, I have been turned in! And don't get me wrong; if they showed up, I would promptly deny them access and go back to living "in secret" with my "stuff".
I need to learn to look at all the little steps first and go from there. So, for starters, I will give myself one task....my clothes! (gulp) I'm going to play the "keep or toss" game for the next few hours until I have to pick up my munchkins. I just hope I don't get the overwhelming urge to grab a snack, or take a nap, or call a friend. Because this is precious time I am wasting. Not that I just have a few hours to get some things done...but I have the desire to do it! That is rare, in and of itself!!
So, off I go into my room. I will go through all my baskets and play the game, and hopefully have closure on that, my first task, before I have to pick up the girls. We'll see where this leads!
Hope your Saturday is less overwhelming than mine!
Pray for me....I'm goin' in!
I am the queen of procrastination and diversion tactics. As it is now, I'm dressed and ready to run through the house and "git er done", but I am sitting here instead, writing to only God knows who; so at this time, we'll just call it, "me".
Frankly, I get overwhelmed pretty easily. When the mood strikes, I want it all done at once! Right now! Not in five minutes....NOW! However, it didn't take "now" to happen. It's been a slow culmination of neglect over a long period of time. So, what I need to do is figure out how to chunk it down!
My "today" goal was to work on my bedroom. Clothes are strewn everywhere, and I can't even dust because I have a lot of stuff to move before that can happen. So, I need to go in and even chunk all that down to manageable tasks. And this...is where I get lost! I just don't know where to start! I swear, I wouldn't be surprised if Clean Sweep came to my door and said, I have been turned in! And don't get me wrong; if they showed up, I would promptly deny them access and go back to living "in secret" with my "stuff".
I need to learn to look at all the little steps first and go from there. So, for starters, I will give myself one task....my clothes! (gulp) I'm going to play the "keep or toss" game for the next few hours until I have to pick up my munchkins. I just hope I don't get the overwhelming urge to grab a snack, or take a nap, or call a friend. Because this is precious time I am wasting. Not that I just have a few hours to get some things done...but I have the desire to do it! That is rare, in and of itself!!
So, off I go into my room. I will go through all my baskets and play the game, and hopefully have closure on that, my first task, before I have to pick up the girls. We'll see where this leads!
Hope your Saturday is less overwhelming than mine!
Pray for me....I'm goin' in!
Friday, April 1, 2011
Losing steam
It seems to me like we are busying ourselves more and more. The girls started dance team this past year and it's been quite the struggle to keep it all together. Rarely do we have an "off" day like I have had in years past. I only work "officially" 3 days a week, yet I feel like I'm running 7.
When people ask if we can "schedule' something and I find myself starting to cower! I'm not sure how much more I can fit on my plate! Take yesterday for example; I worked two meetings, picked up the kids from school (late...and at a friends house, because I forgot it was early day out) and took them home briefly for a change and a snack. Then I dropped one at tutoring, the other at dance, had enough time to complete the purchases necessary for not one, not two, but THREE birthday parties (that only one of my children is attending), and then picked the other up from tutoring. After that I had enough time to run her home, drop her off with daddy and run to my last meeting of the day.
I counted down the hours until I could relax. After the meeting got out at 8:30pm, I went to the store to get milk and such, and came home to "rest". Lo and behold, both munchkins were still up doing homework. The younger one got off to bed around 9:30 (an hour and a half LATE), but the older one had to finish her two BIG projects that were due the following day. I ended up helping her with the last push, because now it's getting so late I am getting tired and starting to lose it. At nearly 10pm, I finally sent her to bed. Hopefully she remembered to brush! As I was sitting at my desk, I smelled something burning, and realized, I had forgotten the eggs that I set on the stove to boil. Well, I'm here to tell you that overcooked eggs stink!!! I was so frazzled by 10pm, and I wasn't even done! Now, I had to put together the gifts for the three birthday parties.
As I sat there in front of the TV, "relaxing" and putting together said gifts, I realized that my schedule conflicts with the early out times, my work, and my hair appointment (to which I only treat myself about twice a year), I have no way to actually get my child to and from the parties. So, I ran upstairs to send off a quick email to beg someone to help me out!
Upon my return, I realize that my gifts that I am working so hard on, now look disheveled and pieces are missing. I realize the dog (appropriately named Jinx), in the few short seconds she had, stuck her nose in my business and decided to try to run off and eat the gifts in my absence. Not a wise decision on her part! Let me just explain; after 8pm, I'm tired....but after 11pm, I'm downright scary! You've never seen a dog run so fast for it's life before. That's all I have to say about that!!!!
Thankfully, the gifts are wrapped *(well, if you can call them that), and the girls got to bed, and the dog is still alive, and I got off to bed near midnight! So glad I had a night to myself to 'relax'.
When people ask if we can "schedule' something and I find myself starting to cower! I'm not sure how much more I can fit on my plate! Take yesterday for example; I worked two meetings, picked up the kids from school (late...and at a friends house, because I forgot it was early day out) and took them home briefly for a change and a snack. Then I dropped one at tutoring, the other at dance, had enough time to complete the purchases necessary for not one, not two, but THREE birthday parties (that only one of my children is attending), and then picked the other up from tutoring. After that I had enough time to run her home, drop her off with daddy and run to my last meeting of the day.
I counted down the hours until I could relax. After the meeting got out at 8:30pm, I went to the store to get milk and such, and came home to "rest". Lo and behold, both munchkins were still up doing homework. The younger one got off to bed around 9:30 (an hour and a half LATE), but the older one had to finish her two BIG projects that were due the following day. I ended up helping her with the last push, because now it's getting so late I am getting tired and starting to lose it. At nearly 10pm, I finally sent her to bed. Hopefully she remembered to brush! As I was sitting at my desk, I smelled something burning, and realized, I had forgotten the eggs that I set on the stove to boil. Well, I'm here to tell you that overcooked eggs stink!!! I was so frazzled by 10pm, and I wasn't even done! Now, I had to put together the gifts for the three birthday parties.
As I sat there in front of the TV, "relaxing" and putting together said gifts, I realized that my schedule conflicts with the early out times, my work, and my hair appointment (to which I only treat myself about twice a year), I have no way to actually get my child to and from the parties. So, I ran upstairs to send off a quick email to beg someone to help me out!
Upon my return, I realize that my gifts that I am working so hard on, now look disheveled and pieces are missing. I realize the dog (appropriately named Jinx), in the few short seconds she had, stuck her nose in my business and decided to try to run off and eat the gifts in my absence. Not a wise decision on her part! Let me just explain; after 8pm, I'm tired....but after 11pm, I'm downright scary! You've never seen a dog run so fast for it's life before. That's all I have to say about that!!!!
Thankfully, the gifts are wrapped *(well, if you can call them that), and the girls got to bed, and the dog is still alive, and I got off to bed near midnight! So glad I had a night to myself to 'relax'.
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